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If you can suggest any movies, television shows, documentaries, or video games, I'd love to hear from you! Any media recommendations must include trans men, AFAB gender-diverse people, or depictions of chest binding. The main mission of this site is to push back against trans male invisibility. Before you send any emails, check to see if your question is answered in the FAQs.
If you have noticed any incorrect details on the site, please use the General Enquiries form to let me know! For example, when I first started building this site, Ian Alexander identified as a trans man and used he/him. They now identify as non-binary and use he/they, so I updated the site when I became aware of that. I can't catch everything though, and a lot of the information accessible online is outdated or plain wrong, so a heads-up is always welcome.

 

FAQs.

Q: Why did you create this site?

A: I got tired of reviews which claimed to recommend great trans movies, but inevitably just amounted to a bunch of trans female movies and Boys Don't Cry (1999). I got tired of trans men consistently taking a backseat, whenever trans media was discussed, and knew that I needed to carve out a space where trans male media was actually prioritised... I was even more motivated in this mission when I watched Disclosure (2020) and found it profoundly lacking in terms of trans male media and chest binding depictions.


Trans men have always suffered from invisibility, erasure, and isolation. In the interview titled Then and Now, you can listen to two older trans men talk about their experiences. Dale, one of the men, describes trying to transition back when trans men simply weren't believed to exist. The local medical opinion, at that time, was that trans women were the only trans people. That's one root of trans male invisibility, echoed worldwide through the erasure of trans men and the damaging hypervisibility of trans women; a double-edged sword for all involved.


Things are changing and trans men are getting more visibility nowadays, which is good. Nonetheless, this is a little corner of the internet where trans male media can actually take centre stage. We have so much history. Before I started building this site, I mistakenly believed that there were two, maybe three, films about trans men, and I don't want other trans guys feeling that way. We should not be feeling as if we have no history, or our history does not matter.

Q: Why include other AFAB gender-diverse people?

A: This is a site primarily devoted to trans men, hence the title. That being said, I have always felt a kinship with all AFAB trans people (especially masculine folks), even though my journey has coalesced into a binary female-to-male transsexual experience. An important part of my journey, earlier on, was engaging with media like Break Free (2014) and Tomboy (2011), which are also deeply significant for many AFAB non-binary people and butches. I adore the solidarity I found in those early years, and I also recognise that non-binary people and certain butches were negatively impacted by those films (due to the traumatising scenes in Tomboy and Ruby Rose's unsafe chest binding), as I was too. Trans men come first on this site, but this is also a space for all AFAB trans and gender-diverse people. Our journeys are unique, but we are united in so many ways, including being impacted by irresponsible media. For a deeper understanding of the language I use on this site, and why I have included certain identities, see this page.

Q: Why haven't you included a particular film, show, documentary, or game?

A: In all likelihood, I just haven't heard about it yet. Give us a bell! I work two jobs and have a pretty crowded schedule, but every recommendation sent my way is added to a list that I'm slowly working through. I have not watched and reviewed everything on this site, and I may not watch or review your suggestions immediately, but I hope to get there eventually. Either way, once I have confirmed that suggested media does provide representation and/or depictions of chest binding, it will be added to the site, even if it's unreviewed for now.

Q: Will you add novels and written media to this site?

A: For now, I'm simply dedicating this site to films, shows, documentaries, interviews, talking head videos, and games.

Q: Isn't the term "transsexual" offensive?

A: Not inherently, insofar as it is used by people (myself included) who identify with that term and consider it validating of their experience. See this page for more information.

Q: Why do you capitalise ethnicity/race descriptors?

I capitalise the names of ethnicity/race descriptors because they are proper adjectives, and to differentiate colour descriptors ("a black cat") from identity descriptors ("a Black American trans man"). The capitalisation of such words is standard for descriptors such as "Asian Australian", so it makes complete sense that other racial/ethnic identities ought to be capitalised too. Beyond grammatical consistency, many marginalised groups find empowerment and unity through the capitalisation of racial identifiers, which is why it is important to capitalise terms like "Black American", for example. I capitalise "White" for a very different reason, which is summed up here, and also to maintain the aforementioned consistency.


I mention the ethnicity/race of actors and interviewees when it's known, and I've been able to find that information somehow. Otherwise I avoid assuming.

Q: Do you make money off this site?

A: Nope. Not a dime. This is a labour of love, and a productive outlet for my frustration related to the erasure of trans men.

Q: Will you promote my business?

A: No!

Q: Why is criticising chest binding so important? Are you against chest binding?

A: No, I'm not against chest binding. I'm against unsafe binding and media which puts my community at risk. That's why I'm always on the lookout for media which shows people binding with bandages or duct tape, for example. See this page for more details.


I am aware that binding is never completely safe, and is not a natural way for the body to be compressed. I have also experienced body dysphoria firsthand and greatly benefitted from risk-aware binding prior to surgery. Ultimately, we need plentiful objective, science-based, well-conducted studies on the risks associated with binding, because we shouldn't solely rely on community knowledge... which, while valuable, is subjective anecdotal evidence.

Q: Can you provide advice about my transition, medical decisions, psychological needs, et cetera?

A: Absolutely not. Please understand that I am a stranger on the internet. I can't tell you anything about your life. I can't tell you if a transition would be right for you, your friend, your partner, or your family member. I can't tell you if you're a gender non-conforming woman, a non-binary person, or a trans man. I can't tell you how you should label yourself, or what you should do with your body. I can't tell you what surgeries you should have, what medications you should start, or how your hormone regimen should change. Those are serious questions which require professional support and, often, years of consideration. This is not the place for those discussions.


I wish you happiness, and I hope you find your most authentic self, whether you're trans or not. Instead of asking me questions, please browse the media compiled on this site and see if you can find representation that helps you figure out your own answers. I encourage questioning people to seek out a therapist, especially if you're considering a medical transition. Beyond that, I have nothing else to say. Just because I am a trans man does not mean I am a therapist.

Q: What are your thoughts on [insert divisive topic here]?

A: There are many spaces on the internet which encourage and embrace debates about trans and gender-diverse people so, if you're seeking that kind of conversation, you'll have better luck elsewhere. This is a website for media reviews. I'm not a medical professional, I'm not a psychologist, I'm not a politician, I'm not a journalist. I'm just a bloke offering his opinion on media depictions of female-born gender diversity and non-conformity. Questions about hotly-debated trans topics won't be answered, partly because I often don't know the answer, but mainly because I'm not qualified to offer an opinion of any substance. One of the worst things on the internet is when laypeople claim expertise beyond their lived experience, and I do not intend to do that!

 

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