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If you can suggest any movies, television shows, documentaries, or video games, I'd love to hear from you! Any media recommendations must include trans men, transmasc people, or AFAB non-binary individuals. The main mission of this site is to push back against trans male invisibility. Before you send any emails, check to see if your question is answered in the FAQs.

FAQs.

Q: Why did you make this site?

A: I got tired of reviews which claimed to recommend great trans movies, but inevitably just amounted to a bunch of trans female movies and Boys Don't Cry (1999). I got tired of trans men consistently taking a backseat, whenever trans media was discussed, and knew that I needed to carve out a space where trans male media was actually prioritised. Things are changing now, and trans men are getting more visibility, but I still meet newly-out men/boys who don't know about their own media representation. Where trans women often suffer from hypervisibility, trans men often suffer from invisibility. Both issues come with unique challenges. In the interview titled Then and Now, you can listen to two older trans men talk about their experiences. Dale, one of the men, describes trying to transition back when trans men simply weren't believed to exist. The local medical opinion, at that time, was that trans women were the only trans people. That's one root of trans male invisibility, echoed worldwide through the erasure of trans men. Again, things are changing, which is good. Nonetheless, this is a little corner of the internet where trans male media can actually take centre stage.

Q: Why include AFAB non-binary people and transmasculine people?

A: I have always felt a kinship with all female-born trans people (especially masculine folks), even though my journey has coalesced into a binary female-to-male transsexual experience. An important part of my journey, earlier on, was engaging with media like Break Free (2014) and Tomboy (2011), which are also deeply significant for many AFAB non-binary people and butch lesbians. I adore the solidarity I found in those early years, and I also recognise that non-binary people and certain butches were negatively impacted by those films (due to the traumatising scenes in Tomboy and Ruby Rose's unsafe chest binding), as I was too. Trans men come first, on this site, but this is also a space for all female-born trans and gender-diverse people. Our journeys are so unique, but we are united in so many ways, including being impacted by irresponsible media.

Q: If this is a site for all AFAB gender-diverse people, how come it's called Trans Male Resources?

A: Because I am a trans man, and my primary aim is to support my trans male brothers. Plus, I have seen local FTM spaces disappearing, often being renamed as transmasculine spaces. While that isn't wholly a bad thing, I know I'm not the only trans man who mourns FTM spaces where maleness is prioritised. Just like non-binary people need spaces which prioritise non-binary experiences, trans men need spaces which prioritise trans male experiences. That's what this site is, while also being inclusive. It was important to me to have "trans male" in the title of this site. Plus, not all trans men feel represented by the label "transmasc".

Q: Why is criticising chest binding so important? Are you against chest binding?

A: No, I'm not against chest binding. I'm against unsafe binding and media which puts my community at risk. That's why I'm always on the lookout for media which shows people binding with bandages or duct tape, for example. See the binding page for more details. I am aware that binding is never completely safe, and is not a natural way for the body to be compressed. I have also experienced body dysphoria firsthand and I know why binding is necessary for some of us.

Q: Isn't the term "transsexual" offensive?

A: Nope. See the terminology page and learn your history. My identity as a transsexual man simply means that I am altering my sex characteristics to align with my gender identity. Not all transsexuals transition to the same extent, and the concept of transsexualism isn't one that necessarily mandates a certain standard of transitioning. Just because I use the word transsexual doesn't mean that you have to. I would never wish to be called non-binary or addressed with they/them pronouns, because that would make me deeply dysphoric and would be disrespectful towards my identity, but that doesn't mean that being non-binary is bad. I would never call someone a transsexual without knowing they identified that way beforehand, but I personally use the term with pride, much in the same way that non-binary people ought to feel pride when they use their label. Lou Sullivan was a self-described "female-to-gay male transsexual", though he's often celebrated as a "transgender" man, these days. Transsexual history matters, and so do modern transsexual experiences. Calling myself a transsexual man validates my experience of always being internally male, and going on a journey to fix what was external.

Q: Will you add novels and written media to this site?

A: For now, I'm simply dedicating this site to films, shows, documentaries, and games.

Q: What are your thoughts on [insert divisive topic here]?

A: This is a website for media reviews. I'm not a medical professional, I'm not a child psychologist. I'm just a bloke offering his opinion on media depictions of AFAB gender diversity. Questions about hotly-debated trans topics won't be answered. I encourage questioning people to seek out an open-minded therapist. I encourage parents of questioning children to treat their children with love, and (once again) seek out an open-minded therapist who can do the best for your family member. Beyond that, I have nothing else to say. One of the worst things on the internet is when laypeople claim expertise beyond their lived experience, and I do not intend to do that!

Q: Why haven't you included a particular film, show, documentary, or game?

A: In all likelihood, I just haven't heard about it yet. Give us a bell!

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